Tolerance

Answered by Shaykh Yusuf Badat
Questions:

1. These days many of us have a lack of tolerance and understanding towards our parents, especially when they tell us to do something that we disagree with, and this causes many problems between parents and youth. What can we as the youth do to help solve this problem?
2. Being Muslims in today’s society, we face many obstacles such as intolerance from those who do not understand Islam, and many of us have been in situations where this intolerance has led to words and actions against us. What do you think is the best course of action to take in this kind of situation?
3. The Prophet (SAW) was a beautiful example of what tolerance towards others is supposed to be. Why is it so important for us to have this quality, and what is one step we take to achieve the level of tolerance that the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) possessed?

Answers:

1. This is a very pertinent question of our times. My advice would be as follows:

Children must  recognize and understand the lofty position awarded to parents by Almighty Allah and the Prophet Mohammed (pbuh). At the same time parents are also encouraged to understand their position in relation to children.

Have a dynamic, open and vibrant  relationship with parents through strong communication and dialogue. Parents and children should be able to express their thoughts and feelings openly to each other, thus allowing healthy discussions to solve issues that may creep up time to time.

We as children should realize that parents only wish for the best of their children. Their advice is usually based on life experiences. If there is a disagreement, your reasons should be respectfully presented to parents. This should allow parents to understand your perspective. Thereafter, a balanced decision will materialize Insha Allah. If the disagreement still exists, I would suggest to get other reasonable persons involved who would be able to understand the concerns of both the youth and parents.

2. As you have eloquently pointed out in your question, intolerance is usually the result of stereotypes and misunderstandings. Some of the things we can do to tackle this unfortunate situation is as follows;

Create awareness and educate people of the true teachings of Islam through exemplary behaviour, interaction, dealings, volunteerism, citizenship, social and humanitarian engagement.  

3. Indeed the Prophet (pbuh) was the best role model of tolerance. Tolerance is a very important trait to possess as it will lead to better relations with other people around us. Tolerance will soften the hearts of even your greatest enemies. It will also allow you to be approachable, caring individual. Tolerance also helps in accepting ways of other’s without forcing other’s to be someone who you think may be perfect. Tolerance closes the door of racism, hatred and violence.

One step we all can take to begin reaching the goal of being tolerant is treating everyone the way you would like to be treated i.e. with respect, dignity and understanding. The Prophet Mohammed (pbuh) has also stated, “None of you can be believers unless one loves for his brother, what he loves for himself”

And Allah Knows Best